Thursday, November 5, 2015

Mail Order Bride

Suppose you are a single lady and you have just been purchased to be shipped to your future husband.  Suppose your husband receives you and says, "you aren't at all what I thought you would be".  You have just arrived together in this place of spending the rest of your lives together yet you don't know one another.  Sounds like a fairy tail in the making doesn't it....not exactly. 

Now suppose you are a single lady and you catch the eye of a gentlemen you have been admiring for some time.  He sets out to woo you, to take your breath away, to have you fall madly in love with him.  During this courtship you both learn all there is to know about the other person, their likes their dislikes, their dreams, their past and how it affected them. In doing this you have no doubt that you want to spend the rest of your days on this earth with each other.  Soon after, the marriage follows.  Now that is stuff fairy tales are made of. 

Isn't that how we treat our relationship with Jesus Christ?  We accept salvation, we pray a prayer of repentance and open our heart to Him.  We walk away from that prayer unchanged and with no desire to know the God of the universe any more than we already do.  I have to feel that if that  is how I treat my supposed salvation that when I stand before Him, he may just say, "depart from me, I never knew you."

Now suppose God pursues us.  He courts us he woo's us and in turn we fall in love with Him. We begin do desire the things of Him.  We want to read His word because that reveals who He is.  We want to pray on a regular basis if not just live in a state of prayer (continual conversation with Him).  We want to know Him as best as we possibly can.  I believe that more importantly than us checking the box of salvation, joining a church and doing good deeds, God wants me.  Just me.  He wants me to walk with Him.  He wants to do mighty things through me.  Then when I stand before him, I imagine him taking my face into the palm of his mighty hands, looking me in the eyes and saying, "well done my good and faithful servant." 

I've been thinking a lot lately about that moment when I breathe my last breath on Earth and enter into His Holy presence.  My heart's longing is that He welcome me with open arms.  There was a time in my life that I would want people to remember great things that I did.  Remember that I was an awesome wife/mother/grandmother/sister/friend.  While I do want people to remember good memories they had with me.  More than anything I pray that people will remember my faith.  That they will talk about the light that I brought into a room.  Not that shined on me but the light of the Holy Spirit that shined through me. 

I am thankful every day that God pursued me.  He never gave up on me even when I ran the hardest from Him.  He was persistent and in being that he woo'd me.  I am madly in love with my Savior and I want to know Him better and better each day.  I don't want to show up as a mail order bride, I want to show up as the one He loves, the one He has been in relationship with. 

Thank God I am His, and He is mine. 

Tuesday, October 7, 2014


My heart just pulled me this morning to read my bible rather than anything else. I know to some of you that is normal, it isn't for me. Just want to journal a few things that hit me. 

1:10~I want to be pleasing to Christ in all I do. I want to serve Him. Of course I want to serve and please my loved ones but not to the point of compromising what Christ wants from me. 

1:24~God has His way of changing our hearts the closer we walk with Him. My hearts desire is for all to love Him. Compliments are nice such as, "that's a pretty dress, that cake was good", but the best compliment ever would be that someone saw Him in me!  The verse says they praised God because of Me. That sentence amazes me. 

2:6~I have to remember we were all created by the same creator. I shouldn't treat anyone more importantly than another. God sees our heart, that is what matters to Him. 

2:21~Christ died for me!!  There is nothing I can do to earn my way to heaven. It is all about His grace. The blood he shed for me, even when he knew what a mess I would be. Think on that. Christ knew me before I was placed in my mothers womb, He knew me...all of me, and he gave His life's blood for me. He knew I would fall, He knew I would try to run from Him,  He knew. Yet He loves me. You can substitute all the "me's" with "you". There is no one He created that He didn't sacrifice Himself for. Praise God!  

3:6~That speaks completely for itself. 

4:9~We stumble, we sin. I do not want to continue to be enslaved by that. I do not want to go back. 

4:15~I have lost my joy. Thank God, I have it again. I think trials of this world can make us stronger. Mine eventually did, but to begin with I handled things wrong, leaving me with no Joy. I pray I never feel that way again. 

6:9-10~Do good. Isn't that a lot easier said than done. I do believe with the Holy Spirit's presence that doing good becomes much easier and more possible. It also gives us the desire to do good. 

6:14~There is nothing I can do on my own that will have any importance. It is only the things I do for Christ that have value. Even those things I can't boast of because it is by/through Him that anything is possible. 

This will just be a way for me to reflect on what I read. I look forward to the next time I read this book and seeing what strikes me then as opposed to now. 

He loves never gets old. 

Saturday, May 10, 2014

Mother's Day

So many emotions play into the days leading up to today. If there is an emotion I have had it in years since my mother leaving this world. I've been really mad that I don't have her, I've been very jealous of people who still have their mothers, but mostly I stay really sad because I miss her every day. She was bossy, nosey, in my business, opinionated, but more than anything she was my best friend. She didn't get that title until I was married and a mother myself then I realized she was pretty smart after all. There wasn't a day that went by after I became a mom that we didn't talk (sometimes several times). I used to think one day I will get this world figured out and I won't need her. I was so wrong....I feel like I need her more and more each passing year. I knew she wasn't healthy, I knew I wouldn't have her for lots and lots of years, I certainly never dreamed she would be gone as quickly as she was. I can replay that last day like it happened a couple of minutes ago and I have to think really hard before I can tell you what I did yesterday, that is how it is burned into my memory. In the past couple of years I have had to forcefully make myself enjoy this day. I am so thankful that God saw fit for me to be the mother of 3 wonderful girls that all have a part of my mom in them. I am thankful that He has given me such good memories of her. This week I've focused on some of the ordinary memories. Some nights she would sleep with me and I would talk her to sleep (imagine that). She had a pink plush robe and the nights I would get scared I would touch a stuffed animal and pretend it was her. Going to the store on hot days, buying a cold coke and sitting in the shade in the car drinking it and talking. Or me pretending to be sick for her to check me out, if it was cold we would park in the sun and just sit in the car and talk. All ordinary memories, all so cherished. Do I still feel angry, jealous,sad? Absolutely, I'm human. But mostly I feel blessed. God gave me a tiger of a mother who would have went up against anyone or anything to protect her children. She taught me to be strong.  She taught me how to love. Her passing away forced me to really become a grown up and I was capable of that because of her guiding me through those first 23 years of life. 

While my  mother isn't here any longer, I have some amazing women who have filled the gap and for that I am thankful. I know I am a lot to deal with at times, those women will never know how important and precious they have been in my life. 

This Mother's Day I will be envious of you who have a mother, but also so happy that you do. I will appreciate the women who I respect, admire and love and I will remember my mother, the woman who loved me before anyone else had a chance. 


Last night I finished the book titled Anything by Jennie Allen.  So this morning I sit here still in awe of it.  I have read Kisses From Katie and was so moved by the measure of faith in her at such a young age.  I remember thinking she had more faith at such a young age than I have now at age 41.  So I have been saved since I was 18 years old.  To say I have ever lived a faith filled life, I would have to say no.  After reading Anything I realize how shallow my faith is. In Kisses From Katie one would be motivated to abandon all their possessions and move to Uganda and help in making the lives of those children better.  However God hasn't shown me that that is the direction He has for me.  We have our bus ministry at church and sometimes I feel that those kids are my Uganda.  I need to be doing my all to make their lives better, but FIRST and FOREMOST I have to show them Christ. 

Back to Anything.  What is my Anything?  What is it that God has for me?  My head is so full of thoughts, which is why I decided to blog this morning. In living this shallow faith filled life I will tell you I love Jesus!  I have thought living my "good" life was enough.  Realizing how my actions mean little to nothing when my heart is what is revealed to Him, that is overwhelming.  I read of her faith and realize mine is nothing in comparison.  What I carried most from the book (this morning's thoughts) is that while I am saved I of course still live a sinful life, as all of us do.  That is where my faith seems to be stuck.  I want to let go of all my worldly desires and simply follow Him.  My hold back is the power I give to sin.  While my brain knows He is an all knowing and all forgiving God, my heart refuses to let it go.  To just let go of the guilt of sin, to step out and just live in His freedom, how freeing that must be.  I believe my life has been in slow transformation for quiet a while.  I have became more and more aware of the "other Gods" I put before me.  My passion for those bus kids has become so much stronger.  I do believe that in order to get past myself and let God reveal my Anything to me, that is just what I have to do, get past myself.  He is the creator of the universe and He can make me do anything He desires. However I believe He wants my heart to only desire pleasing Him.  When I get there (hopefully soon) He will show me my Anything. 

This morning I am almost drowned by the fact that the closer I desire to walk with My Creator the harder that Satan will attack.  He loves to let me get to the point of surrender then just flash my sins before my eyes, I hate him!!  My prayer at this moment is that I will pursue a completely surrendered life with Christ and when the stupid devil wants to put something in front of my face that my God will put something stronger and more powerful in front of his ugly face. 

This will be a journey that should take place for the rest of my life here on earth.  While I am here I want to glorify God.  I want to have a close fellowship with him.  I want to be able to tell him when I am feeling especially blessed and I want to tell him when I am feeling especially tempted.  I want to give him the position of my best friend.  We are only here in this world for a short time.  So far I have managed to make a real mess up of my time.  So for the remainder of my time here I want to focus whole heartedly on Him, so that when I meet Him face to face he can say Cindy, with you I am pleased.  See there the devil just did his thing.  I was imagining God touching my face smiling and being pleased with me and the devil just tried to steal that moment, he said "what if God says all the bad you did?"  Sucker punching the devil right now!!  NO My God is forgiving.  He knows me by my name.  He knows my heart.  He created me for His pleasure. 

If you decide to read my blog I pray that there will only be truth in it.  Stick with me as I search for my Anything.  Pray for me as I seek a life fully surrendered to Him. 

If you go back and read old posts, it has been SO long since I have blogged, I really have no idea what  all is there.  However since I opened this back up this morning I am sure I will be looking back. 

May you have a day filled with the Joy of the Lord. 

Tuesday, February 7, 2012


Realizing I spend too much time facebooking....I think I am going to attempt the blog thing again. Hang with me while I attempt to make it a routine for me again. I don't think I will start doing this from my phone, which should make my battery should last longer between charges. Facebook had been draining that sucker! Not saying I am off facebook forever, just taking a little break like I do from time to time.

Considering how long it's been since I blogged there is lots of information I haven't shared, I am sure.

Mallory moved out and has moved back she was gone around 9 months. Having her move back in the house is still a transistion. I love that everyone is back under one roof. We know as females that we need "me" time. The more people in one house the less "me" time I experience.

Jacey is working on her senior year. I am not one to "wish my life away" but I can't wait until that graduation ceremony to take place. Jacoby is doing great. He continues to amaze us everyday. I am sure if he had been born on time and average weight he would amaze us just the same. They call them GRANDchildren for a reason.

LexyLane is in 6th grade and has the typical pre-teen attitude blossoming. I can't say that I am a huge fan of that. Sometimes she says or does something, and I catch myself shaking my head and saying to myself "ding ding round 3".

I have so many ideas going through my head to post, but for now I need to get lunch ready for some littles. The calm time here is few and far between.

Well would you just look at that, I did a blog post in just a few minutes. If I were on facebook, it would have easily milked 30 minutes out of my morning.

Wednesday, November 3, 2010


Let me just say Thank You to morning naps.

Monday, October 25, 2010

Butter Pecan Pound Cake

1 pkg. butter pecan cake mix3/4 c. oil1 c. water1/4 chopped pecans(I didn't have any the icing is enough for me)1 can coconut pecan frosting4 eggs.Grease bundt pan. Combine cake mix, eggs, oil and water. Mix 2 minutes or until smooth. Add frosting to batter; mix well. Pour into pan. Bake 350 degrees for 55 minutes, until brown. ENJOY!

Tuesday, October 12, 2010

Technically it is Tuesday I am always behind!

Monday: Philly Cheese Steak sandwich with chips (recipe below)
Tuesday: Potato Soup with Cornbread
Wednesday: Whatever Mrs. Joann cooks at church (hallelujah)
Thursday: Chicken stew to be ready after Lexy Lane is finished cheering
Friday: Date night with Mr. Howell....girls are on their own
Saturday: Hot wings and frito salad (if everyone will be home)
Sunday: lunch- Crossroads
dinner- tailgate service at church. I think I am taking apple taffy pizza, heart attacks on
a stick, not sure what else.
Then it will be time to plan have a cook and a maid....ahhh the life it would be!

Philly Cheese Steak Sandwich

I posted this photo on my facebook last night. Now I will tell you all about it (contain your excitement). This was taken from a Pampered Chef cookbook, remember I used to sell that stuff. So I am not writing the recipe, I am writing the "tweeked" version that makes my house happy.
2 cans of refrigerated pizza crust
1 lb of roast beef (deli slices is what I use)
2 blocks of Monterrey pepper jack cheese
Roll out one crust flat. Place the sandwich meat all over it, covering it well. Grate the cheese and sprinkle one block all over it. Then start with one side and begin rolling (jelly roll style). I have cooked just one before and cooked it straight like a sub. But to feed more I make the other crust the same way and put it on my round stone to cook. I then rub egg white all over the crust to make it turn golden brown while cooking.
Bake at 400 degrees about 25 minutes.
My family doesn't really like bell peppers and some don't like onions. So what I do is just saute onions and mushrooms to eat poured on top of my sandwich. If every one likes these you can roll these in the sandwich as well. This feeds 4 people (healthy Howell size servings).

Tuesday, September 28, 2010


Great News! Jacoby came home Friday evening. He is doing great. Brant and Jacey took him for a check up today at the pediatrician. He is at 6lbs. 2ozs. I was a little worried, because he isn't interested in eating at all. But he is growing and his same speedy pace. Last night he kept Jacey up most of the night. She wasn't a happy camper when leaving for school today. She is tired. I told her when he was in the hospital, we may be tired of driving over, but she doesn't know tired until it is her having to take care of him at night.

If you know me, you know I am as far from OCD as one can possibly get. But since he has gotten home, I feel like Babies R Us threw up in our living room, well my whole house. I have had baby supplies around for years, but not to this extreme. I just walk in and look and can a body that small require so much STUFF?! It feels like my house is shrinking as I type. Don't get me started on my kitchen. I am just much stuff...EVERYWHERE. He is still one of the most perfect sites I have ever laid my eyes on.

I think eventually I will blog about a different topic. Lets start with this.

*Brant is on his second week out of work. If you remember the economy STINKS right now. I keep hoping everyday that he will get a call for work. While I am so glad he is here to help out with Jacoby and doctor appointments, I can't help but get those tension headaches that come with not being sure where the bill money will come from. I try not to complain and whine too much because somehow it always works out. I remember to look around and know that people are worse off than we are. He has also started back with the choir at church after about a year away. We all know that makes him happy.

*Mallory is still going to college. Not sure if I ever posted that she quit her job at the orthopaedic clinic. While it was the best job for a college student (no nights and weekends). She was having a hard time balancing the schedule in the summer, so she is back at Burger Chick. She used to hate there, until she worked a job of filing and not many people around. Now she appreciates that place, because she is never bored.

*Jacey, I believe you have the update on her.

*LexyLane has decided to do recreation cheer leading this year (as I gag). We have had 2 cheerleaders, I really was hoping for her to be our ball player. She still says she will play basketball, only time will tell. She is LOVING cheering. Saturday after our game in Bremen one of her friends (on Bremen's team) moms said, after the halftime show....where did she get those moves? She was a rock star! I said of course they came from me, NOT REALLY! I put her in dance class at 4 years old. After watching a few practices and seeing the price sheet of all that stuff, I decided she could dance perfectly well in her own bedroom. That is what she has done since she could walk. I always hear her dancing and she does just fine teaching herself. I have been pretty impressed by her this football season. Sooooo, it is looking like cheerleader #3 has sprung. Have mercy!

Fall is in the air and that makes me smile. Halloween is my LEAST favorite, but I do love the weather that is coming around that time. Then it is Thanksgiving which is my FAVORITE holiday.

So Happy Fall Ya'll.
See, I am trying to be better at blogging.